Jocko Willink (author, podcaster, and retired U.S. Navy SEAL) once said, “Discipline is the root of all good qualities.” I couldn’t agree more; consistency is the key ingredient for not only reaching your goals, but also developing self-trust, self-respect, and self-confidence. But how do you be disciplined and consistent? Fortunately, there is a proven system to develop more self-control in your life.
And I’m going to share it with you in a moment. But first, it’s essential that you understand…
The Truth About Self-Discipline
You must become aware of a simple truth if you want to learn how to be disciplined and consistent.
Here it is: It’s all about identity. Have you ever wondered how disciplined people are able to maintain their self-control for months, years, even decades? It’s because they aren’t trying to be disciplined; they simply ARE disciplined. Not understanding this distinction is the cause of frustration of countless people who just can’t seem to “get it together.”
But here comes the good part…
Your identity is malleable. Like rubber, it can bend, twist, and rotate to whatever “personality type” you feel best suits you. As a result, you are NOT limited based on who you believe you are. No matter how many times you’ve failed or what you currently believe about yourself, you can change.
And in a moment I’ll show you how to make that shift… But first, it’s important to understand…
Why You Should Care About Discipline
First off, let me assure you that you are not “broken” if you struggle with self-control. Like anything else, self-control is a learned skill. Look at it from this perspective: A lack of discipline doesn’t make you “broken” any more than a misspelled word on your computer screen indicates a defective keyboard. Keep that in mind—always.
But with that being said, it’s still wise to bring more discipline into your life. And here are a few reasons why:
- Achieve your dreams: This goes at the head of the list for obvious reasons. You want discipline because it will help you achieve your goals. Full stop. Nothing in life worth having will ever come to you without the consistent exertion of self-discipline.
- Develop self-trust: Do you trust you? That is not a rhetorical question; do you genuinely trust yourself and believe in your ability to get things done, follow through on your word, and accomplish your goals? If not, then developing more discipline should be your biggest priority in life.
- Strengthen your self-image: We’ve already discussed how your identity is affected by discipline. As a result, this benefit should come as no surprise. If you want to view yourself in a more positive light, then self-discipline is the key that will open that door.
A Step-By-Step System To Build Consistency In Your Life
Okay so you know how important discipline is… You understand its benefits… Moreover, you realize that you need to shift your identity in order to be gain more self-control. But the next obvious question is: How do you do it?
1. Start Small
There is no shame in starting small. I say shame should be reserved for not starting at all. It doesn’t matter how humbly you start or how slow you go; all that matters is that you begin, regardless of how modest the action steps. Because here’s the deal… You have to crawl before you can run.
And this truth applies to any area of life that you want to see progress in.
So go for the low hanging fruit, especially in the beginning stages of learning how to be disciplined and consistent.
In his landmark bestseller Atomic Habits (over 15 million copies sold), self-improvement writer James Clear talks about how small actions—consistently repeated—can have huge impacts on your life over time.
I’ve been speaking on this same idea for years.
So humble yourself; start small; keep the big picture in mind while striving forward by taking baby steps every day. This process can revolutionize every area of your life IF you have faith.
2. No Negotiating
You have to develop the mentality that once you make a decision to do something, it’s done. There is no going back; there is no retreating—your decision is final. However, it’s at this point where many people begin to fall off. Why? Because they talk themselves out of doing what they set out to do.
In short, they negotiate with themselves to revert back to their old ways.
DO NOT negotiate with yourself. The moment you play that game is the moment you lose the fight. There can be no room for negotiations. Set the intention and stand by it until you see it through.
This is the only way to succeed long term.
3. Play “The Long Game”
Life is long. Your goals will take time. As a result, you have to be patient. And you can exercise your patience by playing the long game. It’s like investing in the stock market. If you put aside a certain percentage of your income to invest, but become agitated when your investment doesn’t triple itself in the first week, month, or year, you’ll pull your funds out prematurely.
And this will result in you missing out on all of the gains that could have been yours had you just rode the rollercoaster for the long term.
Like investing, learning how to be disciplined and consistent requires a long-term mindset. You need to think in terms of decades—not weeks, months, or even years. You have to practice infinite patience with yourself.
That means that no matter how many times you fail, you’ll get right back up and keep fighting until self-discipline just becomes a way of life for you.
Final Thoughts For How To Be Disciplined And Consistent
You can do anything with discipline and consistency. And by following the steps laid out in this article, you can adopt these qualities as your own. I can tell you from personal experience that the reward is more than worth the effort. Will you make the leap of faith? If you feel you need assistance in this area, I can help.
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