Saturday, July 20, 2024
HomeDiscipline6 Real Ways To Become A Self-Disciplined Person And Reach Your Goals

6 Real Ways To Become A Self-Disciplined Person And Reach Your Goals

Want to know how to become a self-disciplined person?

If your aim is to stay focused on your goals, develop a clear vision for your future, and gain better control of your actions so you can reach success, you’re in the right place. The importance of self-discipline and delayed gratification cannot be underestimated.

This is especially true when it comes to improving the areas of your life that matter most to you.

And luckily, it’s not nearly as difficult as you may think. I have been writing and speaking about self-discipline for five years. But more importantly, I’ve been actively using specific strategies to increase my own discipline to accomplish what I want to achieve.

And here’s what I learned…

ANYBODY can become disciplined.

And in this article, I’m going to show you, step by step, how to do it. But first, it’s helpful to understand the incentives that come with the ability to control your actions in your daily life. So let’s take a quick look at some of…

The Benefits Of Self-Discipline

Everything improves when you practice self-discipline.

And the best part? All that’s required of you is to monitor your activities with a simple to-do list or spreadsheet. In fact, some of the world’s most successful people operate from calendars for self-discipline. It helps keep you on track and continue to put forth consistent effort.

There are many benefits of developing self-discipline in your life. Here are a few to consider:

Being a self-disciplined person means you avoid self-sabotaging behaviors in exchange for healthy habits that will contribute to your life. As a result, it is one of the most important tasks you can do.

Now, here comes the good part…

Self-discipline is a learned behavior. You can take on new habits and start moving forward in your life, as discipline is not something any of us are born with. We all have to learn this essential skill if we’re going to succeed and become the best versions of ourselves.

However, your question at this point is probably…

How Can I Develop Self Discipline?

disciplined martial artist

Your self-disciplined journey begins with a decision.

You must decide that you will demonstrate regular self-discipline in your life. You must commit to making healthy choices and start mitigating and eventually eliminating unhealthy ones. This is how you will begin to make progress.

Here are 7 real ways you can start your discipline training today.

1. Identify Growth Areas

You must first identify where you need more discipline in your life. It’s a powerful motivator when you become aware of your growth areas. For this reason, you should focus on one thing at a time and begin to build off your momentum. So, in what areas would you like to improve? Ask yourself…

  • Do you want to lose weight?
  • Restrict (or eliminate) your consumption of junk food?
  • Cut back on social media usage?
  • Learn to focus so you can stop being so easily distracted?
  • Strengthen your decision-making muscle?
  • Take on a healthy habit or break a bad habit?

Write it all down if you have to.

In fact, to achieve self-discipline, I strongly recommend a journaling practice as it helps increase self-awareness and the root cause of your struggles. Moreover, writing about the improvements you want to make also gives you insight into how you can facilitate change.

You’ll gain ideas on how to proactively remove temptations.

2. Take Baby Steps

Self-discipline helps to improve everything in your life.

However, if you bite off more than you chew, you’ll choke on your own degree of tenacity. For this reason, it’s essential to take baby steps when first practicing discipline. This makes things easy for you. And that’s a powerful motivator when you’re just getting started on this path.

So begin by making small adjustments to your habits and lifestyle, such as:

  • A 5-minute walk around the block
  • Writing a few lines in your journal
  • Eating an apple a day
  • Working on your side hustle for just a few minutes, etc.

Having a time bound limit helps to streamline things even more. Notice that in all the examples above, each suggestion is an almost effortless step that anyone can take. The idea is to put consistency over intensity.

Self-discipline develops over time as long as you keep showing up by taking those tiny steps daily.

3. Get Others To Hold You Accountable

Having an accountability partner can be invaluable for becoming a self-disciplined person.

I have a couple of them that I have weekly check-ins with. And it has helped tremendously with my level of self-discipline. Your accountability partner can be anyone: A close friend, a trusted family member, a coach or mentor, etc. You just want to enlist someone you know, like, and trust.

If those criteria are met, then you have a great accountability partner. Here are a few suggestions for how to conduct this relationship:

  • Share your goals and ambitions: Tell your accountability partner everything you want them to hold you accountable for. Be clear on the guidelines for failure and success. This creates a black-and-white line that divides winning from losing. It’s essential to have that framework established.
  • Weekly check-ins: Ensure you set up a time when the two of you call each other or, better yet, meet in person (no texting) to discuss how the week went: What went well, what can be improved, etc. This is an essential part of the accountability process as it strengthens your bond as well as your commitment to your goals.
  • Make losing painful: You should have some “skin in the game.” If there are no consequences for you falling short, then you have no real incentive to hold yourself to your word. So make losing painful by putting something sizable on the line if you don’t follow through.

4. Reward Yourself For Progress

While it’s important to make losing painful, it’s equally important to celebrate your successes.

Both are signs of maturity. If you say you want to reduce (or eliminate) unhealthy food from your diet to improve your physical health, and you do follow through by adopting those good health practices, then reward yourself. You’ve earned it; do something fun as a reward for following through on the good habits related to your long-term goals.

You can reward your focus and self-control by:

  • Going to the spa
  • Watching your favorite Netflix show
  • Having a night out with friends
  • Reading a good book
  • Doing nothing and just relaxing

Your self-discipline journey starts when you begin taking action. However, it only has longevity when you incorporate balance. Too much of anything (even if it’s good) can be detrimental. As a result, you need to even out your self-discipline with pleasurable rewards from time to time.

5. Use Apps And Tools

While they are not a substitute for self-discipline and willpower, apps can be effective tools for helping you progress on this path. Consider some of the habit tracker apps that are available. These are your digital to-do lists. Moreover, they can help you form positive and constructive habits while also helping you to break bad habits.

So, if you struggle to build self-discipline, consider the following apps:

Check out the above tools to help you start building self-discipline. With a little consistent effort using these apps, the practices you put in place will become automatic, and your level of self-control will skyrocket as a result.

6. The 100-Day Challenge

This step is my personal favorite method for becoming a self-disciplined person.

The 100-Day Challenge is simple yet strenuous. It is a bridge-builder that allows you to make the leap from a devil-may-care attitude to unyielding, long-lasting self-discipline. For this reason, I highly recommend you try the 100-Day Challenge if you struggle in your daily life with self control.

Here are the rules…

1. Pick a Habit

Choose a discipline you want to adopt.

It can be anything; moreover, it could even be numerous habits at the same time. However, I wouldn’t recommend that if you’re just getting started on your self-discipline journey. But if you’re a little more experienced, there’s nothing wrong with taking on two or three new disciplines in multiple areas of your life at the same time.

Here are some new habits to consider:

2. The Jerry Seinfeld Method

Once you have your habit(s) ready, it’s now time to commit to the 100 days.

You do this by applying the “Jerry Seinfeld Method.” Actor and comedian Jerry Seinfeld became great because of his daily commitment to writing jokes. The story goes that he wrote his jokes every day. And when he completed his daily discipline, he would take a marker and draw a giant “X” on his calendar for that specific day.

As he continued this practice, he developed a string of “X’s” that stretched throughout the days, months, and, eventually, years.

This has a psychological effect on the brain; seeing your consistency on the calendar in this manner reinforces the self-discipline you are developing. You must use this same technique during your 100-Day Challenge. It will help keep you on track with your new and healthy habits.

At this point, I would recommend getting an accountability partner to help hold you to your commitments.

3. Journal Your Progress

Last but not least, journal about your progress.

Writing has a powerful effect on your psyche. Moreover, it acts as a constant reminder to stay the course and strengthens your commitment to the process of building self-discipline. Write every day about your challenge; document your progress, how you feel, and what you’re learning.

Not only is this invaluable in helping you remain focused on the path, but it also contributes to your mental health and well-being.

Final Thoughts On Becoming A Self-Disciplined Person

You strengthen your character when you practice self-discipline.

Aside from the satisfaction that comes from self-control, you also gain the pride that comes with knowing you are in charge, not your urges and impulses. You become more focused on long-term goals and obsessed with success when you practice discipline in all areas.

If you’re looking for more self-improvement advice, be sure to sign up for The Motivated And Disciplined Newsletter below for free personal development tips delivered weekly directly to your inbox.

self disciplined person

Sign Up For The Motivated And Disciplined Newsletter

Receive Breakthrough Personal Development Tips Proven To Help You Build Discipline And Achieve Your Ambitions

We don’t spam!

Sign Up For The Motivated And Disciplined Newsletter

Receive Breakthrough Personal Development Tips Proven To Help You Build Discipline And Achieve Your Ambitions

We don’t spam!



Please enter your comment!
Please enter your name here


Latest posts